In the latest season of Entourage, I appreciate how dedicated Ari Gold with his business. I've been a fan of this show but I, somehow, was struck by Ari's commitment to his work and family. He showed so much love with his wife. Yes, he could be arrogant at times but at least he isn't a douche and the man really often makes a point. In the first few episodes of season 6, a friend and colleague, Andrew Klein, had an affair with another coworker. Ari was furious when he learned about the affair.
When I saw this, natawa ako at napailing. Just like in real life, it happens. I saw this happened with my close friends. One of my friends told me once, "Mahal ko ang asawa at mga anak ko, ayaw ko ng maulit uli yun. Natututo na ko." But then, it happened. The formula is simple. The guy befriends the girl. They became close - and there! The usual reason, pa-showbiz ba... we're just friends...
Friend A was married. He has a daughter and a gorgeous wife. Even before they were together, my friend had a kid with another woman but it didn't work out and so they separated. The woman he got pregnant and his kid took off abroad. They were never married. And so he told me that this time around, he wouldn't mess up his marriage because he loves his wife and daughter. Until a new colleague came and she was pretty and very gregarious. Let's call her Colleague A. To cut the story short, they became close. They wouldn't join us during lunch because, at some peculiar reasons, he or she had some things to take care of. As days went on, I resigned from the company, until I heard that these friends of mine were together and that Friend A was already separated from his wife. But now, Friend A and Colleague A didn't last long. Colleague A's parents learned about their affair and she was sent abroad while Friend A... I never heard of him until now.
Another friend, let's call him Friend B was also married. He has a daughter. I saw him with his family once in our office when his wife visited him - it was a picture perfect! He was raising his daughter in the air while his wife was all smiling as she wiped the sweat out of his forehead. I never thought that this picture perfect family wouldn't last. It started when a new batch of employees were hired and there he saw her...his new friend. Let's call her Jolly B. They became an instant hit!
"Yosi tayu sa baba" o "snak muna tayo", these were just two of the many ways they became closer and closer and closer...to the point that Friend B separated from his wife and later he got Jolly B pregnant. Now, Friend B and Jolly B are together and are married with 3 kids! See that...
Then, finally, another Friend C with 4 kids. But this time didn't end up messing up his marriage but did become so close with a newly grad let's call her JYp. His words to me was, "friendly lang kasi ako". The usual gimmicks of yosi break, lunch to some store or shops where no one else would see them, "hatid na kita tutal on the way ka naman..." lines were all pretty much jaded. At times, he would extend his stay in the office (even his wife is already waiting to be picked up at her office) so that he could wait and gave her a ride or he would have a yosi break with her before he would leave the office. His day wouldn't be complete without having that last yosi break with her. Maaring hindi naging sila but they have this connection as perceived by their body language whenever they were together - yosi break, lunch, etc. It may not be a full blown affair but it certainly would head on that direction kung hindi maaagapan. They separated when JYp resigned. But then again, it didn't mean that their communication was over. There are plenty of ways to simmer the friendship - chat, texting, emailing, etc.
Sure it's hard to be faithful. Specially when your spouse is a mile away. Sure it's a gratifying feeling if someone would appreciate us other than our partner. More often than not, we rationalize it and tell ourselves na magkaibigan lang kami. How could you be just friends when everytime you make love with your spouse you imagined her to be that friend of yours...
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